Nothing except possibly love and death are of importance, and even the importance of death is somewhat ephemeral, as no one has yet faxed back a reliable report.
-Naturalist /Writer Gerald Durrell
I recently received an email from a friend telling me about a Zen retreat he had made. When he arrived at the retreat the Zen Master asked the participants what they wanted. He did not ask what they expected. He asked what they wanted. He asked a second time, “What is it you really want”? He wasn’t referring just to the retreat. He was also asking it in the context of their total lives. Looking at your own life and dreams, what is it that you really want? What is really important to you? I think all of us want love in our life. We want someone to love and we also want someone to love us. If you don’t have love in your life everything else loses much of its meaning. The common understanding of success is not a universal desire. Most of us cannot even agree on what success is. Is success based on the size of your paycheck or the happiness and contentment of your life? If the answer is the latter, there are many very successful people with simple lives, minimal possessions, and average paychecks. As most of us live our lives we get hung up on incidentals that aren’t really important in the great scheme of life. I’ve spent much of my work life dealing with people who are upset about something. I’ve talked a lot of people off the ledge. What are really grains of sand and bumps in the road are often seen as boulders and craters. Sometimes we need to stop, breathe, and put things in perspective. There’s not a hidden agenda behind every circumstance in life. More often than not, life is just life. Things happen. A lot of the time they are good things even if we don’t recognize them as such. Occasionally bad things happen. They are not always fair or deserved and usually they are not part of a conspiracy that life is perpetrating against us. Take some time to reflect on what has real value and importance in your life and focus on that. Everyone has problems and heartache. We all have disappointments and things that annoy us. Most of it we need to let go. Our energy needs to be spent on what we value and consider truly important.
-Naturalist /Writer Gerald Durrell
I recently received an email from a friend telling me about a Zen retreat he had made. When he arrived at the retreat the Zen Master asked the participants what they wanted. He did not ask what they expected. He asked what they wanted. He asked a second time, “What is it you really want”? He wasn’t referring just to the retreat. He was also asking it in the context of their total lives. Looking at your own life and dreams, what is it that you really want? What is really important to you? I think all of us want love in our life. We want someone to love and we also want someone to love us. If you don’t have love in your life everything else loses much of its meaning. The common understanding of success is not a universal desire. Most of us cannot even agree on what success is. Is success based on the size of your paycheck or the happiness and contentment of your life? If the answer is the latter, there are many very successful people with simple lives, minimal possessions, and average paychecks. As most of us live our lives we get hung up on incidentals that aren’t really important in the great scheme of life. I’ve spent much of my work life dealing with people who are upset about something. I’ve talked a lot of people off the ledge. What are really grains of sand and bumps in the road are often seen as boulders and craters. Sometimes we need to stop, breathe, and put things in perspective. There’s not a hidden agenda behind every circumstance in life. More often than not, life is just life. Things happen. A lot of the time they are good things even if we don’t recognize them as such. Occasionally bad things happen. They are not always fair or deserved and usually they are not part of a conspiracy that life is perpetrating against us. Take some time to reflect on what has real value and importance in your life and focus on that. Everyone has problems and heartache. We all have disappointments and things that annoy us. Most of it we need to let go. Our energy needs to be spent on what we value and consider truly important.
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