Thursday, March 05, 2009

The Care And Feeding Of The Introvert In Your Life

More than once I have shared that I am an off the chart introvert. Introverts are often misunderstood. I am not a shy person. In fact, anyone who knows me would probably tell you I am a very friendly person. I like other people. However, as an introvert I must be honest and say that other people simply wear me out. The main focus of my job is interaction with other people. By the end of the workday I feel like all the blood has been sucked out of my body. In order to be able to recover from my interactions with others, even if they are pleasant, I simply must have personal and solitary time. If I don't have this time alone I can be downright hostile. I have determined that I need about two hours a night of solitude where I don't have to deal with anyone, even my wife. In this personal time I might nap, read the newspaper or a book, review emails, write on this blog, or simply listen to music. Sometimes I do all of this in a continuous flow. Each day I look forward to this time. Later in the evening when I have recovered from the demands of the day, I usually join my wife and we watch a movie or favorite television shows. Some nights, however, I hit the jackpot and I have an entire evening of solitude.

This evening I actually received an excellent meditation along these lines from the folks at DailyOm.Com. This is a nice site if you want to sign up for their meditations. Here's the one I received tonight.

Sustenance for the Soul
Taking Time for Yourself
Modern life compels us to rush. Because we feel pressured to make the most of our time each day, the activities that sustain us, rejuvenate us, and help us evolve are often the first to be sacrificed when we are in a hurry or faced with a new obligation. It is important we remember that there is more to life than achieving success, making money, and even caring for others. Your spiritual needs should occupy an important spot on your list of priorities. Each task you undertake and each relationship you nurture draws from the wellspring of your spiritual vitality. Taking the time to engage in spiritually fulfilling activities replenishes that well and readies you to face another day. Making time for the activities that contribute to your spiritual growth has little to do with being selfish and everything to do with your well-being. Regularly taking the time to focus on your soul’s needs ensures that you are able to nurture yourself, spend time with your thoughts, experience tranquility, and expand your spiritual boundaries.It is easy to avoid using our free moments for spiritual enrichment. There is always something seemingly more pressing that needs to be done. Many people feel guilty when they use their free time to engage in pursuits where they are focusing on themselves because they feel as if they are neglecting their family or their work. To make time for yourself, it may be necessary to say no to people’s requests or refuse to take on extra responsibilities. Scheduling fifteen or thirty minutes of time each day for your spiritual needs can make you feel tranquil, give you more energy and allows you to feel more in touch with the universe. Writing in a journal, meditating, studying the words of wise women and men, and engaging in other spiritual practices can help you make the most of this time.Making time to nurture your spirit may require that you sacrifice other, less vital activities. The more time you commit to soul-nurturing activities, the happier and more relaxed you will become. The time you devote to enriching your spirit will rejuvenate you and help you create a more restful life.

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